It’s been a week since starting class. The topic was dreams. Audric says he dreams.

It’s fun getting to know him like this. I’m so used to taking care of him that I don’t take time to listen and get to know him. This class teaches me to be an effective communication partner, and set me up to see Audric beyond his basic needs and preferences.

Before this class, I took a 6-series coaching session for AAC users. The big takeaway was making sure to count to 10 to give Audric time to process, think, and respond. Anyone who works with him is instructed to do the same thing. Consistency in communication with Audric is important, and it’s a priority.

We avoid true/false and yes/no questions. We create the pause between every statement. Sentences are clear and concise. And we limit choices. At first it felt like I was taking his autonomy, but it actually supports him.

He’s not overwhelmed and agitated. He’s not getting constant decision fatigue. He is provided a consistent communication style across providers.

Another huge thing I shifted in my behavior and communication with Audric is accepting his “no”. Until the end of last year, his “no’s” weren’t respected. I’d convince, negotiate, or just straight up say, “this is happening”.

This class is teaching me how to support Audric because he has so much to say. And helping him express himself this way is so different than what I’ve been taught and trained to do. Finally, it’s about meeting him where he is.

I can’t help but think, oh man, why did I wait so long. He could be so much further along but this is a thought for another day with my therapist.

At the end of class, he was happy to say bye to everyone. I think he feels safe and heard. Then he skipped his way to the car. He amazes me always.